To my friends 


Warning :⚠️ 

The following is written as I suffer from menstrual cramps. My lower abdomen hurts, I am hungry but can’t eat (if I do I will Inevitably puke). To put it simply I am in pain and I am angry so what I’ve written is a reflection of that anger.

 If they want to come up with reasons for their inability to make up their mind about you then let them. While they are deciding and weighing out the options that their delusional minds think they have, start walking, leave, let them keep “thinking” by themselves.

 You are too damn fly to wait around for some guy to step his half ass game up. Know that if they couldn’t keep up with you then, while you were simply standing still then what were they planning on doing when you started moving? You can’t drag people along, they have to want to go and honey they should know by now if they want to go.

 You deserve to be wanted, you deserve some fucking effort, and if they can’t even reply to your text message then fuck them.

See they don’t know we were raised to be strong. How we were told it was good to be vulnerable at times. How we listened, when our mothers taught us  the importance of giving. 

 Not all us women were taught to love the same way. Some of us were shown love early on and learned through examples. Some of us had to teach ourselves. My god did we have to teach ourselves. 

We worked towards it. Looked to movies, books, poetry, listend to the experiences of others. Self love and love for others  did not come easy to us. 

They will never understand how more than willing we are to give them every ounce of knowledge we’ve acquired. 

  • So be strong enough to walk away
  • know there’s no shame in being hurt
  •  you will learn to be vulnerable again 
  • It’s okay to take a break
  • But don’t be afraid of starting over 

I know you’re tired of giving so much of yourself away but you’re strong and you’ve survived worse.

    Vanessa Escamilla

    Who is Vanessa Escamilla you ask? Well besides being one of my great friends she so happens to be a very talented human being. Vanessa is strong, Independent, and ridiculously talented. You don’t know her yet, but trust me when I say she will be a very well known name in the film industry. Right now she’s a college undergraduate working on small projects, but I can’t wait to see where her talents take her. Be sure to read a short review she wrote….

    http://ksjs.org/2017/02/28/dj-latinidads-latino-dance-party-review/

    If you are reading this all I ask is that you please support your friends and their endeavors, we need to build each other up and support each other’s dreams. They don’t even gotta be your friends, just be supportive of those around you. Ya never know who might need a little encouragement or the places people could go if only someone showed a little intrest in their aspirations.✨

    Crap days 

    You are allowed to feel angry towards family and friends.

    You are allowed to be fed up and tired of being put through the same shit, time and time again.

    You are allowed to cry over political policies that affect you and even those that don’t.

    Your feelings and your opinions matter, even if you sometimes chose to keep them to yourself.

     

    How to slide into my DM’s & maybe someone else’s 


    The following post is one that my friends have been telling me to write for a while now and I’m dedicating it especially for @healthyfitbrowngirls
    http://instagram.com/healthyfitbrowngirls


    — For many people the early stages of  getting to know someone or “the talking phase”, in which two people text, call, FaceTime, send carrier pigeons, the whole works; all before actually meeting in person can be rather difficult and challenging. Some people thrive at communicating through technology & suck at face to face communication while others are the opposite. If you are one of the lucky few sometimes you are good at both.  I’d like to think that as someone who has no problem talking to strangers and have found myself having random conversations with people both in person and through technology (special shout out to tinder) I’ve really gotten a chance to learn what works for me personally. The next time you’re trying to sweep someone of their feet or slide into someone’s DM’s, I hope you can incorporate the following tips into your regular routine. —

    • Be yourself  

    There’s really no point in pretending to be someone your not because the person you’re talking to will eventually find out your a fraud when you meet in person. So don’t be a fraud. You want the person you’re talking to like who you are and not who your pretending to be. So talk to them as if they are already a friend and just tell them what your interests are. Don’t worry if you guys don’t have much in common, if the connection is there you don’t always have to have so much in common (I speak from experience). Take it as a learning experience to expose yourself to new things & vice versa teach the person you like about your favorite things.

    • Be chill 😎

    For the love of god do not overthink this! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve ruined something for myself by being so inside my head, planning my wedding and wondering if he just likes me or like likes me & sees us headed towards something serious. Ughhh like this is not the time to think about these things just have fun & rember this is meant to be the fun stage, so just please try not to stress.

    • Keep it honest or keep it moving 

    Now I’m not saying air out all your dirty laundry, I’m just saying try to be as truthful as you can be (if you have something to hide then maybe you shouldn’t be trying to get to know someone). I associate speaking your mind as being honest so don’t be afraid to share your thoughts and opinions. You have to remember that sometimes the “talking phase” doesn’t go any further than that for some people and that’s okay. 
    ….Now for the fun tips 

    • Be funny 

    The early stages requires some sort of laughter to release any sort of awkwardness there might be. If you think about it you’re talking to a stranger and that’s kinda weird, so you gotta laugh at the situation. Clowning on the other person can be a form of being funny but just don’t be mean. 

    • Cute selfies 

    Now you might be asking yourself “why?!…” but you have to keep in mind you haven’t meet the person you are talking to in person yet and more than likely they want to see your cute ass face(also you don’t want to get catfished so be sure you’re sending as well as receiving cute selfies). Send cute pictures of yourself from the waist up ,please hold off on sexting until after you guys actually meet lol. Make sure you cover your bases and take all the classic pictures; pose with a cute animal, take a picture with a baby/child to subliminally hint at the fact that you’re fertile and one day want a family, take a picture of you being active to show you have a life (include friends to show you actually have some), finally pose with delicious food to hint to the fact that the two of you could one day eat delicious food together on a date.

    • Compliments are important 

      If you’re only giving the other person compliments directed towards their physical appearance then you’ve already failed. Especially if you are only trying to slide into someone’s DM’s. You gotta give meaningful compliments folks. It’s all about the details here so make the effort to notice things specific to this person. Ex.) “You’re so nice, i don’t think I’ve met anyone nearly as kind as you”or “when you smile, your whole face lights up & your eyes get all big, it’s cute”.

      • Exploit your family 

      To show the person you’re talking to that you actually care enough about them to virtually introduce them to your family is very important. Send them pictures of your annoying  sibilings, nieces, nephews, second cousins twice removed, anybody; they will feel like they practically already know you and your family. If they don’t want to run away after seeing your crazy family you can now treat them to old embarrassing baby/teen pictures of yourself. Again the purpose is to make them feel like they are already apart of your life so that when you finally do meet in person they feel like they already know so much about you and are comfortable.

      • Social media etiquette 

      You have to remember that you are speaking to someone you like and a potential bae so keep your social media up to date or delete it👏🏽 Can’t tell you the number of times I’ve gone to creep on a guys Instagram only to find out his pictures are not up to date (hasn’t uploaded in 78 weeks) & all the pictures are terrible quality. If you’re going to have social media please give the person you’re talking to some actual good content so they can learn more about you without having to actually ask you. You also should use social media as a means to show  the person you like that you have a life and do things (careful not to appear too damn busy though cause then it might seem like you have no time to be talking to anyone).

      –Finally If you read through my entire post I commend you for that and hope that my advice works well for you. Just know that at the end of the day  I am still single and probably shouldn’t be giving any advice on how to lock down 🔐 a bae lol but nevertheless this is pretty solid advice. 

      -Dulce 

      5:19 am 

      Modified from something I wrote January 12, 2013

      How many people don’t feel alone.  Wishing they had someone to be completely vulnerable with. Tired of holding everything in & feeling dishonest for doing so. Wanting to scream, yell, knock things over. Just wanting someone to cry in front of. Needing someone to hold them close. I will join you on your sleepless nights. I will listen as you crumple, promise to stay within arms reach. I’ll be here when you are ready to rebuild again. I have no intentions of leaving.